Tuesday, April 13, 2021

 ALL IN WITH NANCY UPDATE #137

Greetings. 

This is the one hundred and thirty-seventh in a series of NANCY UPDATES I have posted-- now celebrating the fact that even though her post bone marrow transplant and brain seizure recovery continues... the amazing Nancy Neufeld Callaway is still in full remission and has kicked her leukemia on its ass. 

Nancy's corneal patch graft surgery appears to have gone without a hitch.


Even if it was delayed by some pre-op blood lab issues, I have to say, the UCLA Stein Eye Institute's surgical facility is pretty top notch. And her anesthesiologist, a wise and angelic man named Dr. Fang, was also extremely attentive to Nancy's complex medical journey of the past four and a half years-- and after conferring with her corneal specialist, Dr. Aldave, decided he didn't want to take the risk of prompting any seizure activity or causing any further memory loss by putting her completely under with general anesthesia. Instead, the decision was made to carefully administer a combo of gas and a strong local anesthetic-- which blocked all of Nancy's pain, but still left her awake and able to hear the surgeons doing their work.

And three hours later, the job was done. The specialist told me her donor cornea had been carefully trimmed to perfectly fit into the damaged area of Nancy's cornea and he was very pleased with the end result.

Oh, and maybe the best part? In the hours since getting her home afterward-- she hasn't really felt any significant pain or discomfort. Granted, her left eye is completely covered with gauze and a big aluminum shield-- but so far, so good. And we'll be back to UCLA tomorrow for a post-op exam.

Thank you so much for all of your kind emails and texts to Nancy. Your thoughtful encouragement and prayers mean the world to our entire family-- and your continued healing energy and prayers for a swift and complete recovery are more appreciated than you'll ever know.

I may lay off the daily blog updates for awhile-- but will definitely keep you all posted on her progress. In the meantime, just know this...

WE LOVE NANCY, and...

ALL IS WELL!

If you'd like to learn more about the UCLA Jules Stein Eye Institute and/or support their work, here's a link to more information:


If you'd like to register for the International Bone Marrow Donor Bank, here's a link. You could be someone's cure. You could literally save a life.


If you'd like to donate to City of Hope and help them continue their tireless efforts and research to stop cancer, there's a link for that as well.

City of Hope Online Donation

And if you'd like to be automatically notified of updates to this blog-- just enter your email address in the window on the right beneath Nancy's picture, click SUBMIT, and follow the prompts!

Monday, April 12, 2021

ALL IN WITH NANCY UPDATE #136

Greetings. 

This is the one hundred and thirty-sixth in a series of NANCY UPDATES I have posted-- now celebrating the fact that even though her post bone marrow transplant and brain seizure recovery continues... the amazing Nancy Neufeld Callaway is still in full remission and has kicked her leukemia on its ass. 

In case you missed the last update (which was the first in quite some time), Nancy has been experiencing some pretty difficult eye issues. Here's a link to the full story:


Now here's the latest update. Today-- Tuesday, April 13, 2021-- Nancy is having some pretty serious surgery. A corneal patch graft of her left eye, to be exact.

Basically, that means they'll be using a small fragment of a donor cornea to replace a section of Nancy's left cornea that has deteriorated to an extent it can threaten the integrity of her entire cornea. Her specialists at UCLA have been trying to glue the area for a number of weeks, hoping it would heal on its own. But since it hasn't-- they must now carefully cut away the area of corneal thinning, and replace it with a "patch" made from donor tissue. That actually gets sutured over the bottom edge of her iris. And in order to spare you the experience of having to look at any online surgical photos-- I drew you a really bad picture.

   

Assuming all goes well, and her body doesn't reject the patch-- the hope is that it will fuse with the rest of her cornea, healing the damaged area, with no further surgical procedures necessary. If it doesn't work, we'll be looking at a full corneal transplant. But let's be optimistic, shall we?


Nancy will be under general anesthesia for the procedure, and it should last about an hour and a half. Then, once it's over and she's recovered from surgery, I'll be bringing her home.  


So if you've got some spare prayers, healing energy, and/or simple words of encouragement you'd like to pass along to the Sunshiny Superwarrior Goddess-- this would be a good time, and we'll gladly accept any or all of it. And yes, I'll do my best to keep you posted on her progress here. Meanwhile, as always...

WE LOVE NANCY, and... 

ALL IS WELL!

If you'd like to register for the International Bone Marrow Donor Bank, here's a link. You could be someone's cure. You could literally save a life.


If you'd like to donate to City of Hope and help them continue their tireless efforts and research to stop cancer, there's a link for that as well.

City of Hope Online Donation

And if you'd like to be automatically notified of updates to this blog-- just enter your email address in the window on the right beneath Nancy's picture, click SUBMIT, and follow the prompts!

Thursday, April 1, 2021

ALL IN WITH NANCY UPDATE #135

Greetings. 

This is the one hundred and thirty-fifth in a series of NANCY UPDATES I have posted-- now celebrating the fact that even though her post bone marrow transplant and brain seizure recovery continues... the amazing Nancy Neufeld Callaway is still in full remission and has kicked her leukemia on its ass. 

Once again, it's been awhile since I updated this blog. But in addition to trying to get on with our lives-- there was also that whole global pandemic thing.

And unfortunately, the Sunshiny Superwarrior Goddess has had other difficult issues to deal with, as well. Because it turns out those eye issues I told you about in the last blog post back in 2019 have taken a bit of a turn for the worse.




As I've mentioned before, between high dose chemo, radiation, and a bone marrow transplant—you know there are going to be all kinds of different potential side effects. For Nancy, it happens to be her eyes—with all kinds of acute dry eye problems. She’s seen literally dozens of doctors and taken all kinds of medicines over the last few years to try to manage the symptoms. But it’s all basically the trade-off for staying alive.

 

2 MONTHS AGO, NANCY'S LEFT EYE BEGAN ACTING UP  



Things suddenly took a turn for the worse with her left eye. She developed a corneal ulcer—basically a small open wound on her left cornea. It hurt really badly and obviously impacted her vision in that eye. In addition to our trusted family ophthalmologist, she started seeing a number of corneal specialists at the UCLA Stein Eye Institute—who were surprised by just how fast things deteriorated. Her cornea rapidly began to thin—first by 40%, then by 60%, then by 90%. The doctors began seeing her pretty much every day, including weekends—and were ultimately forced to glue her left cornea in order to keep it from rupturing, which could force her to get a corneal transplant in order to save her vision. Yes, they literally use surgical superglue—and have now had to do it three times. They’ve also placed a protective contact lens over her eye. And she’s been forced to take some very heavy steroids to speed healing—which have been pretty rough on her mental and emotional state. As they searched for the cause of the ulcer—the specialists began to suspect some kind of systemic, immunological issue. So they also sent her to a rheumatologist for an indepth series of tests. She was tested for rheumatoid arthritis, lupus, Sjogren’s syndrome, hepatitis, ocular herpes, and all sorts of other conditions which are known to impact the eyes—but all those tests came back negative. 

 

Nevertheless, the UCLA rheumatologist, after conferring with her City of Hope oncologist, decided to put Nancy on a broad based “steroid sparing agent” called methotrexate so she can hopefully get off the heavy steroids ASAP.

 

The good news is, for the past two weeks, her eye specialists have at least been happy to see the situation with her left cornea stabilized. Some of them are even hopeful that her cornea will still be able to heal itself without the need for a transplant. Others are not so sure. But in the meantime…

 

2 WEEKS AGO, NANCY'S RIGHT EYE BEGAN ACTING UP

 


When Nancy suddenly started to experience pain and blurriness in her right eye—the doctors immediately jumped on it—and diagnosed her with an epithelial defect, or “scratch” across the surface of her right pupil. They quickly put a protective contact lens over that eye, as well—and gave her even more meds to take. 

 

The good news is, as of this week, the scratch appears to have healed. But the bad news is—like any scratch—it has left an elevated ridge of tissue across the surface of her eye that is continuing to impact her vision. 

 

NANCY’S CURRENT VISION

 

Currently, between her two eyes, Nancy can barely read her phone, computer, or any printed words that aren’t absolutely huge. Everything looks like a white fog. So know that when you text or email her—she probably can’t read it—even after I magnified all the type on her phone and computer to the largest sizes possible. So it’s best to call directly or send voice texts if you want to connect with her.

 

PROGNOSIS

 

The doctors are telling Nancy that the vision in her right eye should restore itself over the next two weeks as that elevated area of tissue continues to heal. As for the vision in her left eye—we’ll just have to hope, wait, and see if the cornea heals. If not, she’s either looking at a partial corneal graft or a full corneal transplant. 

 

Of course, ALL of this is exacerbated in every way possible by Nancy’s memory issues. In fairness, her daily treatment regimen would be confusing for most people, without memory issues. But because it’s often difficult for her to remember exactly what the doctors have told her—sometimes only hours later—she is easily discouraged by all of this. Every day feels like waking up to some new fresh hell for her. So my hope is that by sharing all of this information with you—you can encourage her and help her keep track of her progress. 



So thanks in advance for that encouragement-- not to mention your healing energy and prayers as she continues to fight her way back to wellness.

WE LOVE NANCY, and... 

ALL IS WELL!


If you'd like to register for the International Bone Marrow Donor Bank, here's a link. You could be someone's cure. You could literally save a life.


If you'd like to donate to City of Hope and help them continue their tireless efforts and research to stop cancer, there's a link for that as well.

City of Hope Online Donation

And if you'd like to be automatically notified of updates to this blog-- just enter your email address in the window on the right beneath Nancy's picture, click SUBMIT, and follow the prompts!


Wednesday, April 10, 2019

ALL IN WITH NANCY UPDATE #134

Greetings. 

This is the one hundred and thirty-fourth in a series of DAILY NANCY UPDATES I have posted-- now celebrating the fact that even though her post bone marrow transplant and brain seizure recovery continues... the amazing Nancy Neufeld Callaway is in full remission and has kicked her leukemia on its ass. 

I know it's been awhile since I updated this blog. Mostly because we're trying as hard as we can to move on with our post leukemia lives. 

But truth be told, the Sunshiny Superwarrior Goddess has been struggling a bit of late.


You see, after you get a bone marrow transplant (even almost two years later!)-- your body can continue to fight those new cells in all kinds of ways. And one of the most common reactions is something called Graft Versus Host Disease (GVHD). GVHD is basically a condition in which the donor transplant's immune cells attack the recipient's tissues. In other words, Nancy's brave Israeli soldier cells have kinda been beating up on her a bit.

And while GVHD takes many forms-- in Nancy's case, it's been wreaking a little havoc with her eyes.

They burn. They sting. They're red. They're very sensitive to light. And her eyesight is often impacted. In short the past eight months haven't always been fun.

But as I watched her check into yet another ophthalmology appointment with yet another specialist today-- I couldn't help being struck once more by just how strong she is. And then as I watched the doctor do spine-tingling things to her eyeballs-- I was blown away by her bravery. 

For one thing, they inserted punctal plugs into two of her tear ducts in the hopes of slowing down some of the excess moisture her eyes are generating.  






And along with taking all kinds of eye drops-- including a custom serum created with plasma from her own blood-- Nancy's also wearing sunglasses day and night. In other words, she looks like a rock star. Which I suppose is only appropriate-- since SHE IS A ROCK STAR.

Anyway-- all the pain and discomfort have been a tad discouraging for her. So the next time you see or speak to her-- a little extra love probably wouldn't hurt.

Meanwhile, just know this. In spite of everything she's gone through-- she remains a true vision of courage and grace.

WE LOVE NANCY, and... 

ALL IS WELL!


If you'd like to register for the International Bone Marrow Donor Bank, here's a link. You could be someone's cure. You could literally save a life.


If you'd like to donate to City of Hope and help them continue their tireless efforts and research to stop cancer, there's a link for that as well.

City of Hope Online Donation

And if you'd like to be automatically notified of updates to this blog-- just enter your email address in the window on the right beneath Nancy's picture, click SUBMIT, and follow the prompts!

Wednesday, June 6, 2018

DAILY NANCY UPDATE #133

Greetings. 

This is the one hundred and thirty-third in a series of DAILY NANCY UPDATES I have posted-- now celebrating the fact that even though her post bone marrow transplant and brain seizure recovery continues... the amazing Nancy Neufeld Callaway is in full remission and has kicked her leukemia on its ass. 

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Today was a huge day for Nancy, our entire family, and everyone who's ever rooted for the Sunshiny Superwarrior Goddess.


That's right. Thanks to the heartfelt heroism of an anonymous donor... 365 days ago, Nancy had a bone marrow transplant at City of Hope Hospital. And as of her most recent tests yesterday... according to the incredible Dr. Stephen Forman, she is still in full remission from acute lymphoblastic leukemia. 

If you're new to the blog, or just interested in how the transplant was administered, here's a link to the post about it from one year ago:


Meanwhile, we've been deeply touched by the kind messages we've received from many of you. But also by the kindness of strangers. Just today at the market, Nancy struck up a conversation with a cashier who told her that yesterday, he'd spent the day in the hospital himself, donating his own marrow to another patient in need. In fact, he was so happy to see what the transplant had meant to Nancy-- that he actually bought her flowers!

If you'd like to register for the International Bone Marrow Donor Bank, here's a link. You could be someone's cure. You could literally save a life.


And if you'd like to donate to City of Hope and help them continue their tireless efforts and research to stop cancer, there's a link for that as well.

City of Hope Online Donation

We were absolutely overjoyed to spend the evening celebrating over a quiet dinner with our kids. And there are far too many doctors, nurses, family members, and friends to possibly thank for helping us get there.

But nobody has worked harder than Nancy. 

She is the World's Strongest Wife. Mother. Daughter. Sister. Niece. Friend. Writer.

And one year later... she is still Our Amazing Survivor. 

WE LOVE NANCY, and... 

ALL IS WELL!

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

DAILY NANCY UPDATE #132

Greetings. 

This is the one hundred and thirty-second in a series of DAILY NANCY UPDATES I have posted-- now celebrating the fact that even though her post bone marrow transplant and brain seizure recovery continues... the amazing Nancy Neufeld Callaway is in full remission and has kicked her leukemia on its ass. 

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HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO US!

Today the Sunshiny Superwarrior Goddess and I celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary. We had lunch at the Getty Museum and spent the afternoon browsing all kinds of amazing art. Later we had dinner at Valentino, one of LA's oldest and tastiest Italian restaurants. But in between the two... we visited 405 Shirley Place in Beverly Hills.


Why? 

Because 26 years ago... that's the place we first met. 

It was our friend Stacey Adams' apartment. And we were both attending rehearsals for a couple of one act comedy plays that each of us had written for an actors showcase. 

Mine were okay. Nancy's were really funny

But she was still a big-time movie exec at Fox and a tad uncomfortable with the notion of becoming a full-time writer, just yet. So as soon as the rehearsal ended-- she bolted for the door. 

Trouble is, I hadn't gotten a chance to ask for her number, yet. 'Cause yeah, she may have been talented. But she was also damn cute. 
So I bolted for the door, as well. 

And when I finally caught up with her, she was just about to climb into her car across the street. But in the same instant the two of us finally stopped to talk with each other-- the streetlight above us suddenly blinked on-- like some kind of crazy cosmic lightbulb illuminating our future.  

Today was the first time in two and a half decades that we've revisited that particularly treasured memory lane. And with memories still a lingering post-seizure issue at times-- returning to where we began felt even more special. 

But this time last year, we spent our anniversary checking Nancy into City of Hope for the bone marrow transplant that has blessedly kept her in full remission ever since. So having her by my side today (and every day) made me feel like the luckiest guy in the world.

I usually sign off these blog posts by saying "WE LOVE NANCY." 
After all, you're probably only reading this because you're crazy about the Sunshiny Superwarrior Goddess yourself.

But if you don't mind, today I'm gonna keep her all to myself.

I LOVE NANCY, and... 

ALL IS WELL!

Saturday, May 12, 2018

DAILY NANCY UPDATE #131

Greetings. 

This is the one hundred and thirty-first in a series of DAILY NANCY UPDATES I have posted-- now celebrating the fact that even though her post bone marrow transplant and brain seizure recovery continues... the amazing Nancy Neufeld Callaway is in full remission and has kicked her leukemia on its ass. 

If you'd like to be automatically notified of updates to this blog-- just enter your email address in the window on the right beneath Nancy's picture, click SUBMIT, and follow the prompts!

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

And honestly, we can't think of a better way to celebrate our own Sunshiny Superwarrior Goddess than by sharing the incredibly emotional adventure she experienced on Friday.


It was the CITY OF HOPE 42ND ANNUAL BONE MARROW TRANSPLANT RECIPIENT REUNION-- bringing patients of all ages and walks of life together who each have one thing in common: their lives were miraculously spared from cancer, thanks to the heartfelt and generous efforts of bone marrow donors and the hospital's extraordinary doctors, nurses, and staff.

Accompanied by her amazing friend Katerina (thanks again, Katy!), Nancy got to enjoy an incredibly moving day of connection-- not only with fellow patients, but also with her beloved and brilliant physician, Dr. Stephen Forman. 

But don't take my word for it. You should read what the SSWG has to say about the whole event herself:

NANCY WRITES:

The Bone Marrow Transplant Reunion was unforgettable. I was surrounded by hundreds and hundreds of people in so many stages of recovery, all who have been incredibly cared for at City of Hope— and many, who like myself, have been treated by Dr. Stephen Forman, a soft-spoken, petite man, humble in all ways, brilliant and dedicated to changing, lengthening and ultimately saving people’s lives. He oozes kindness and compassion. He is a saint on Earth.

On one side of me, was a woman carrying a very small child on her hip, around three years old.  And her adorable daughter was wearing a big blue button that said 10 months. That immediately got my attention, since nobody else had my same short recovery date of only 11 months. The button was as big as her little head, but as she giggled and played with it, I wasn’t quite sure which of them it belonged to. 

So looking casually back and forth between her and her daughter, I asked the woman how long she had been in recovery, and she said, “Oh, not me. It’s my daughter.” This beautiful little girl laughing in her arms had been diagnosed with Leukemia at only two and half years old, and was now in full recovery due to the efforts of Dr. Forman and all the caregivers at City Of Hope. 

On the other side of me was a much older woman wearing a button that said 22 years in recovery. I asked her how she was feeling, and she told me she feels better now at 74 than she did before she got sick. That she took her life for granted until she almost lost it. 

The sheer number of people and their powerful stories of triumph over cancer was overwhelming. All there with their families, and all forever indebted to Dr. Forman. Seeing so many faces from so many places was oddly comforting. And just knowing that I didn’t go through this journey alone was grounding and deeply inspiring. 

I cried a lot, but I smiled even more!

So there you have it. The Survivor has spoken. The kids and I are so incredibly grateful to still have her in our lives... and we know you feel the same way, or you wouldn't be reading any of this.

Thank you SO much for being there for all of us during her journey. Your constant love, prayers, encouragement, and support, have made all the difference in the world.

WE LOVE NANCY, and... 

ALL IS WELL!